I recently came across this article where the author was explaining how she is an independent woman, but still wants to find love. My thing is why do we even need to have such conversations. Independency and love are not opposites.
The dialogues regarding strong, independent women and relationships are just ridiculous. In reality, everyone, ALL OF US, need and want love. It is like the air that we breathe. Don’t confuse my being able to care for myself and be on my own with anything other than me just being able to care for me.
Aren’t we always reading about how “you must love yourself first”? Then, why am I getting blows thrown at me because I am doing that. We are way past the era where women were deemed incapable and had to wait for a man to succeed in life. Isn’t that what the “Women Equality Movement” all about?
Yes, I work and I provide for myself; frankly, there is not a material thing a guy can offer me that I cannot offer to myself. I love it and can sustain financially, but there are different aspects to each person’s life. Taking care of the aspects that I can control does not automatically deactivate the other aspects.
Ultimately, we all want and need love. We need to reevaluate our focus and perspective to really see the bigger picture and stop the non-sensical conversations. Yes, I am an independent and strong woman who works hard, but that does not mean I don’t need someone to wake up next to, share my life with or to just love me.