As a young woman, being raised in a Christian family from a third-world country, the pressure of getting married and start a family soon after college is all too common. Quite frankly, it is unbearable and for those who don’t know, you get humiliated every waking second. You are the subject of conversation at every group events, every family gatherings and whatever else you can imagine. So, if you find yourself in the same predicament, worry not. My take on this is simple, yes, I’m almost 30, so what? What’s the rush? Why must I have my life together?
Of course, I would have loved to have the answers and have my life together. However, that is not how life works, well, at least not from where I stand. I should not be comparing myself to anyone, nor should anyone else. I can only compare my present situation from my past and evaluate my progress or regress. Not being married, have a boyfriend or have it all together should not define, neither should my age. Some will argue that my biological clock is ticking and I am reaching my limit, but what limit? Whose limit? Who are you?
Why should I compromise my priorities?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having it all at or before 30, but there’s nothing wrong with not having all of it figured at that age either. It’s all a matter of priority and frankly, it is a personal decision, so no, I need nobody’s input. When I get married, my mother, parents, friends or anyone won’t be the one staying and dealing with that man, I will be. So, how must you determine my readiness for me. What about those kids you keep pushing for, who will care for them.
See, it is not a matter of age, before anyone embarks on those journeys, as they are indeed, one must be ready, one must truly want and hope for such. These things are no jokes. So, to all of my people out there going through the same thing, follow your dreams, stay focused, focus on your well-being, let God work in your life – believe that everything will happen in its due time. Most important of all, do not beat yourself up, don’t rush off or into things, and Never let anyone tells you how to live and plan out your life. Your friends, sisters, cousins, neighbors, anyone’s destiny is not your own. Whatever is meant to be will be.
It’s really something for people who are approaching 30 to take a look at what that means to them. I think turning 30 is a chance to re-identify with yourself.Neil Patrick Harris